There are thousands of self-help books and websites available today. Whilst the majority of them are well written and well thought out, they do require you to stick to a program or life plan. This is great in theory, but often difficult to maintain in real life. As someone once wrote, “Life has a way of getting in the way of Life!”. I do however encourage you to read as much as possible, especially in the area of your concern/problem.
Learning about a situation or problem can open doors to your thinking. Sometimes a simple technique can make life much easier. Seek out published authors, ones who you can find out about online (through Amazon book reviews for instance). Word of warning! – Just because you read it in a book that was written by a well known author does not mean it will be the right path for you – but at least it will be a start for your new way of thinking.
I believe that In life you have 2 choices:
• Do as you have always done – and get the same results (or worse)
• Change your ways – live for yourself AND the people you love
To begin walking we must simply put one foot infront of the other – and so it is with beginning a new chapter in our life. Whatever your problem is, from alcohol to stress, there is ALWAYS a way, always an alternative, always a new way to start living again. It may take you days, weeks or months to find the right path or you might be lucky and have a EUREKA moment where one simple bit of information unlocks the door to a new you. Whatever it takes, keep at it. You are not the first to be where you are…and unfortunately, you will probably not be the last.
Read, read, read…
Read about people who have been where you are. There are not many conditions unique to just you – someone will have been there – and depending on your condition, some will have found a way out. Use all your resources to find them. The Internet has made finding information easy. Get online or go to a local library or religious organisation.
Talk about your problem
As human beings, most of us have the ability to communicate our feelings and thoughts through our voice. There will always be someone somewhere who is ready to listen to our problems. They may not always have the answers, but the fact that you have started talking will open up so many new ways of thinking for you. Your problems will now have a voice to represent them – and hopefully a friendly ear to hear them.
If you don’t (or can’t) talk vocally about your situation, get online and join a forum or group. You can join anonymously and get involved. You are not alone in your situation, I guarantee there will be many other feeling exactly the same way you do right now.
You may have a condition that is terminal and cannot be “fixed” by convential methods – but you can learn to accept things for what they are, and in doing so be at peace with your thoughts. Speaking to people in the same situation can help bring about feelings of acceptance. Your GP or doctor should be able to point you in the direction of groups that help people cope with these difficult situations.
At the end of the day you are still a Human Being and you have just as much a right to live in the moment as anyone else does!